Women are nurturing by nature. We are wired to care for others on a different level than men. In our society we are taught to do so. For Black Women, the care of others has been put before our own in several different ways. I’m sure you’ve heard the term “Strong Black Woman” at some point in your life. Well that actually breeds weak women, appearing to be strong on the outside, while slowly dying on the inside.
Being a Black Woman and feeling the stresses that come along with that title are exactly why I jumped on the opportunity to learn more about Zakiyyah Walker and her business With Zakiyyah-Personal Revolution Coaching For Black Women.
Zakiyyah is a woman on a mission to heal Black Women. In this mission she’s helping herself and others to create a legacy while transmitting the negative energy from the disconnection associated with slavery. This ancestral trauma passed down through generations has created the strong black woman syndrome. However like any other conditioning it can be reversed.
What got Zakiyyah into reversing ancestral trauma? Overcoming her own traumas. After going through a rough breakup in 2010, via text, Zakiyyah found that she was dealing with chronic depression and anxiety. This was after being suicidal and placed in psych ward on Christmas. Being placed there was the best thing for Zakiyyah at that time because she was being cared for. Her focus was no longer on caring for others but sitting back and allowing the facility to care for her.
After her diagnosis she could take time to care for herself. Religiously attending her therapy sessions, and learning to love herself. From her trauma she began to coach other women in need of a change. She found that Black Women needed this help more than any other group and set out to make a difference. As she watched her mother on her death bead still worrying about other people and trying to make their lives better, she realized that if not for these stresses her mother’s life could have been a lot different and she believes this stress killed her. It’s good to care for others but what good are you to another when you have not cared for yourself? Just like in an airplane crash, they tell you to put your oxygen mask on first before trying to help someone else put on theirs.
So now that Zakiyyah has begun to love herself and break free of those chains of the strong black woman, she’s helping others do the same. The most rewarding part to her coaching is seeing a transformation of a broken or unfulfilled woman and knowing that’s the legacy she will leave.
Zakiyyah could have broken under the pressure but instead she emerged victorious. She is a symbol for women of all colors, but especially Black Women that we are not stuck in a role, we have the right and ability to love and care for ourselves. WE ARE WORTHY! The world is not our problem to solve, we create the narrative.
Person of Inspiration
Maya Angelou. She moved Zakiyyah’s spirit in a way nothing and no one has. Maya Angelou’s ability to overcome sexual assault through the utilization of language which inspired an entire race of people, ignited the spark in Zakiyyah which led her to desire to connect with what others felt on a spiritual level causiing edification of women.
Messages to Aspiring Entrepreneurs
“Life is hard. There’s no way around that. Your business IS your legacy. Run your business based on the legacy you want to leave.”
“You’re going to have doubts. Imposter Syndrome is going to kick in and voices will tell you you can’t. Look in the mirror on some Cardi shit and say “we gone win”. There are going to be times no one is rooting for you, you have to be your own cheerleader!”
With Zakiyyah Online
Private Coaching - Legacy Accelerator Coaching
Group Coaching - Revolution 360: Intensive
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